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More Information About Flowers Checklist

The right flowers can add a magical element to any wedding. Finding the right florist, and executing the final arrangements right through to perfection, are easily achieved with a little research and careful planning. There’s no need to feel overwhelmed by the process, if you follow this simple timeline.
One Year to Go
• If you’re super organised and already have your wedding theme and colour schemes picked out, you have the opportunity to drop by your florist’s and take a squiz at the type of flowers that will be in season at the time of your wedding.

• This is the time to start sourcing florists if you’re having a destination wedding.

9 Months
• Start consulting florists, especially if you’re tying the knot during spring or summer (peak season).

• Gather photos, colour swatches, bridesmaid dress fabric, photos of the venue, flower cuttings from grandma’s garden, and any other bits and pieces that will provide inspiration for your florist.

• For those having a destination wedding, you should, ideally, book your florist now and get down to planning – prepare yourself for plenty of email correspondence and perhaps even some Skype calls.

6 Months
• Make up your mind and choose your florist.
• Put down your deposit and start making formal arrangements with your florist at a second consultation.
• If you’re having a destination wedding and want to export flowers from Australia to the venue, look into the country’s import/export laws and go about filing the appropriate paperwork.

4 Months
• Finalise your flowers and settle on a final price. You may have to pay an additional instalment if your final quotation is dramatically different from the initial quotation.

• Make sure that your contract clearly states the due date for your final payment as well as any extra fees, such as delivery or tax.

• Discuss how to go about preserving your bouquet, if you are planning on doing so.

2 Weeks
• The majority of florists require the final down-payment one to two weeks before the wedding. Check your contract for details.

• Make sure that your florist has a floor plan of the venue and a clear idea of where all the floral arrangements are to be displayed.

The Day Before
• Arrange for the maid of honour, or another member of the bridal party, to take your bouquet home from the reception and have it preserved, if you would like to keep it as a memento.

The Big Day
• Greet your florist, as they deliver your flowers to your dressing room, and try to contain your ecstasy as you see your bouquet for the first time (this especially applies to bride’s who have a curling iron in their hair or a make-up artist with brush poised within the facial region).

• Make sure everyone’s corsages, hair flowers and bouttonnieres are fastened properly.

• Take a whiff of those beautiful buds and take a look in the mirror, holding your bouquet.

• Walk down the aisle and show off that gorgeous bouquet to all of your guests.

Know More About he Roles of the Mother and Father of the Bride

Your wedding day will be amongst the proudest and most special moments for you and your parents. There are many duties that can be done by the parents to incorporate them into your wedding day, making them feel special and needed. Involving your parents during the wedding process can not only can be a huge help for the couple, but, asking for their continual involvement- and, to an extent, their input- makes your parents feel included and makes them aware of your continuous gratitude.

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The father of the bride
Traditionally, the father-of- the-bride’s role is rich with symbolism. As the customary head of the household, it is the father who has consented to ‘give’ his bride away- passing all old responsibilities over her to the groom, as well as to open his family to his new son-in-law. This honorific role is epitomised in his giving his daughter way just before the marriage ceremony.

The father-of-the-bride’s involvement consists of:
Sending out the engagement announcement to the local newspaper. If the groom’s parent live far away, he should inquire as to whether they’d like an announcement placed in their local newspaper as well
Attending the wedding rehearsal
Attending any pre-wedding parties
Preparing a speech for the ceremony
Taking care of final payments of caterers, musicians etc.
Escorting the bride from the house to the ceremony
Arriving last with the bride
Walking with the bride up the aisle, walking on her right hand side
Giving the bride away
Standing until after the vows and then join the bride’s mother
Lighting the wedding ceremony candle with the mother and father of the groom (depending on your religious ceremony)
Signing the registry with the bride’s mother, and then escorting her down the aisle
Leaving for the reception after the bride and groom
Standing second in line at the wedding reception and greet the guests
Toasting the newlywed couple and making a short speech
Dancing with his daughter
Mingling with guests and introducing guests, when necessary
Keeping an eye on the food and drink supplies
Organising where the wedding presents should be sent
Writing any last minute cheques to vendors
Generally supervising the winding down of the party
Should aim to be the last to leave the party
The mother of the bride
Whilst the mother-of-the-bride’s role has less historical symbolism than her husband’s (ugh theres patriarchal society for you), she is just as important in practical and modern symbolic terms as the bride’s father. Aside from any ‘necessary’ role the mother-of-the-bride plays, one of her main emotional priorities is to share in this experience with her daughter, and help wherever possible to ensure her day goes as smoothly as possible.

The mother-of-the-bride’s duties include:

Helping the bride to compile a guest list, and potentially organising the RSVPs and dietary requirements of the guests
Helping to choose and coordinate the wedding invitations
Helping to choose the wedding gown and accessories, bridesmaids attire, flower girls and pageboys, wedding reception entertainment, florists, and transport (depending on how involved the bride would like her mother to be)
Keeping the parents of the groom informed of wedding planning progress
Consulting with the Mother of the Groom about the colour of her wedding outfit
Attending wedding rehearsals
Attending pre-wedding parties
Helping the bride with her dress and veil on the day
Walking her daughter down the aisle with her husband (depending on your religion)
Again, lighting the wedding ceremony candle with the mother and father of the groom (depending on your religious ceremony)
Carrying an emergency kit in case anything is needed by the bridal or grooms party on the day
Signing the wedding register and walking down the aisle with the father of the bride
Leaving for the reception after the bride and groom
Standing second in line at the reception and greeting the guests
Acting as a hostess at the reception, mingling with guests and introducing people
Helping the bride to change out of her wedding dress and storing it if the bride leaves straight from the reception for the honeymoon
Generally supervising the winding down of the party
Should aim to be the last to leave the party

Tips to Shopping for Mum’s Formal Wear

To the best of my knowledge, there are three types of mothers’ dress sense: 1. She has immaculate taste and always look timeless and elegant. 2. Her dress sense is ok, with a couple of ‘wardrobe malfunctions’ once in a while, but is generally (at least a little) open to some alterations. 3. There’s no getting around it. Her dress sense is plain God-awful and she insists that she knows she looks great. So how do we ensure that no matter what category your mother fits into in her day-to-day wear, she looks great on one of the most important days of your life? We’ve provided a series of steps to deal with even the most difficult of personalities, enable happy shopping, and guarantee that your mother looks great for all her photocalls.
Communicate
Irrespective of how your mother normally dresses, your best plan of action is to begin with an open talk with your mother about what she’d like to wear. Remember that on this day, her outfit isn’t a simple form of isolated self- expression, but she also needs to conform- to an extent- to what the rest of the wedding party is wearing; including the bride, groom, bridesmaids and groomsmen, fellow parents, flower girls and pageboys. Some level of visual cohesion is necessary if you want your group photos to look unified and tidy.

Ask in this conversation:

What, in a perfect world, would she like to wear?
Are there any particular colours she’d like to wear/ avoid?
What parts of her body would she like to show off/ conceal?
What are her absolute non- negotiables? (e.g. If she has a scar on her chest she wants to cover up, or she doesn’t want anything that emphasises her waist).
Are there any accessories she particularly wants to wear?
Find out where her basic boundaries are work with them. Attempting to sway her about these issues could simply spark an argument, and cast a cloud over her dress shopping. Make it abundantly clear that you will do everything in your power to find her the perfect dress that fits these requirements, and that she can absolutely trust you to help.

If you’re particularly fashion- savvy, you should, at this point, start giving your suggestions for what will look great on her. If you aren’t particularly adept at this sort of thing, wait until you get the opinion of a professional in the industry. Whilst working within the guidelines your mother’s set for you, your pieces of input should cover:

Her colouring and complexion
The colours being worn at your wedding (either these colours can be worn or neutral colours)
Her usual style
Her size and body shape
Possibly a brief discussion of fabrics (e.g. no chiffon, nothing clingy, etc)
If you have any, discuss here what your non-negotiables consist of. (e.g. if your mother wants to show a considerable amount of skin and your fiance’s family is extremely religious)
Establish who’s paying for the dress. There’s no etiquette stating that you should pay for your mother’s dress, but know your fiance will be guaranteed a lifetime of extra affection if he offers to pay for it (sneaky, sneaky).
Get a- Browsing
Have your mother show you some pictures of the style/ colours she’d like to wear. This will save time spent physically shopping. If she finds a dress she’s like to buy, make she orders it with plenty of time in advance. If you’re not sure about how it will look/ does look on her, consult a family member or friend who you can trust to be honest (preferably one who ‘gets’ fashion, or at the very least, has a keen eye for body proportions).

Retail Therapy (or More Like ‘Mission’)
Once you’ve found plenty of inspiration, hit the shops!

If you know your mother is an impatient shopper, consider spending some time browsing before she meets up with you. Photograph the dresses/ suits you find, along with their labels so you know exactly which stores they come from.

If neither of you know where to begin and what’ll look good, visit a store with potentially suitable dresses and have yourself fitted. Explain to the saleperson that you don’t know what’ll look good, and allow yourself to be guided. If you’re more comfortable being fitted by a woman, politely tell the salesperson so. They’ll be more than happy to oblige. The salesperson should be able to give objective advice on what fits will flatter, where to highlight, and what to avoid. If they don’t have anything suitable for your particular needs, they should be able to you in the right direction.

Tip: the more expensive and exclusive the shops you visit, the more personal attention and, often, the more useful advice you’ll receive. Many high-end shops don’t pay their salespeople according to their commission, so you’re more likely to receive good, honest advice.

When assessing how she looks in the outfits, the two watchwords here are honesty and kindness. It won’t do anyone any favours to try and ‘massage’ the truth. If a dress looks great, tell her! If it looks terrible, don’t simply say that (this is enough to put just about anyone into an awful shopping funk), but try to pinpoint where and why the dress isn’t working. Remember to critique the outfit, not the person- or their body- in it! If you’re at a complete loss for how to tell your mother that the outfit is horrendous, after covering why exactly you don’t like it, conclude with a simple ‘I think you could do better’, or ‘it doesn’t do you justice’. These phrases aren’t simply nice- sounding platitudes, but are a kind way of getting your essential point across. Remember that trying on clothing can be absolutely brutal, and that is it therefore imperative to try and build and maintain your mother’s confidence when trying on clothing. And who knows, maybe helping to put your mother into a good mood will encourage her to buy you lunch!

If you and your mother disagree on an outfit, get a salesperson to weigh in on the matter. Take photos of your mother in the outfit, show her, and reassess. If you still haven’t agreed, put the clothing on hold, and take a break. Shop around some more, take a stroll outside, or get some food and come back to it. Chances are, you’ll both have cleared your mind and be able to look at the outfit with fresh perspective.

Remember that shopping for the ‘one’ can often take weeks- so repeat this fact to your mother and don’t get discouraged! Shopping requires balls and tenacity, and often feels like more of a battle than a method of relaxation (especially when trying to find a specific outfit with a tight timeframe in mind), so keep this in mind and hang in there!

Get Personal
If all else fails, or you simply want to cut to the chase, make an appointment with a personal shopper. These professionals either work freelance or within a particular store. Call in advance to inquire about and organise this service. Like a regular salesperson, they should be able to assess your body’s needs, and find an outfit that is flattering, age appropriate and event appropriate. Unlike a salesperson, they make be able to match up some jewellery to the outfit, as well as shop for the correct underwear.

Get Intimate
Speaking of which, the foundation to taking an outfit to the next level is to wear the right underwear with it. Do not try buying underwear first, because your underwear in always dependent on your outfit, rather than the other way around! If she doesnt have the right underwear, take her to go grab some. The two rules of thumb here are quite obvious: Stick to underwear that will be concealed (no clear plastic bra straps for strappy tops or dresses, please), and it should be used to help fix what needs fixing! If she’s concerned about her stomach, introduce her to spanx, and if she wants her bust to look bigger, help her pick out a push- up bra. You know the deal.

Get Accessorised
Consider what accessories will suit your mother’s outfit. These can consist of:

A hat
A tiara
Earrings
Necklaces
Bracelets
Rings
Belts
A bag/ clutch
Tights
Socks
Insoles/ gel liners
Shoes
What is ultimately chosen depends, again, on her personal style, the formality of the wedding, and her sense of comfort.

Generally speaking, the busier her actual outfit is, the less accessories she needs.

Jewellery: The key here is to strike the right balance in choosing how much to wear. You should be wearing between 1- 3 pieces at once (including a tiara, if she’s wearing one). Jewellery should be there to compliment the outfit, not compete for attention. You should have one attention grabbing piece (e.g. the tiara or ornate earrings) and keep the rest fairly simple.

Bags/ shoes/ hats: It’s been quite popular for decades to wear whatever shoe colour you like with your dress, as long as it matches you handbag and hat (if you’re wearing one). Whilst some see this approach as a little outdated, if done right (i.e. with beautiful items), it can look classic and elegant. Alternatively, you could wear different colours of each item as long as they compliment eachother (e.g. sticking to jewel colours by wearing an emerald green dress with burnt- orange shoes and a deep- yellow clutch). Or, you can choose to dress tonally, where you wear different toned items of the same colour (e.g. a periwinkle blue dress with navy shoes and a pale blue cardigan). All this really comes down to is personal preference.

Helping to choose your mother’s wedding outfit can be a daunting task. But chances are, you mother will feel the pressure more than you- meaning that she’ll be relying on you for calm, clarity, and great style advice. So try to keep calm and approach this project with a sense of openness, fun and flexibility! At the end of the day, the outfit is just an outfit, but the process of choosing it is an opportunity to create some priceless memories. True style takes infinite forms- and applies not only to clothing, but attitude!