More Information About Flowers Checklist

The right flowers can add a magical element to any wedding. Finding the right florist, and executing the final arrangements right through to perfection, are easily achieved with a little research and careful planning. There’s no need to feel overwhelmed by the process, if you follow this simple timeline.
One Year to Go
• If you’re super organised and already have your wedding theme and colour schemes picked out, you have the opportunity to drop by your florist’s and take a squiz at the type of flowers that will be in season at the time of your wedding.

• This is the time to start sourcing florists if you’re having a destination wedding.

9 Months
• Start consulting florists, especially if you’re tying the knot during spring or summer (peak season).

• Gather photos, colour swatches, bridesmaid dress fabric, photos of the venue, flower cuttings from grandma’s garden, and any other bits and pieces that will provide inspiration for your florist.

• For those having a destination wedding, you should, ideally, book your florist now and get down to planning – prepare yourself for plenty of email correspondence and perhaps even some Skype calls.

6 Months
• Make up your mind and choose your florist.
• Put down your deposit and start making formal arrangements with your florist at a second consultation.
• If you’re having a destination wedding and want to export flowers from Australia to the venue, look into the country’s import/export laws and go about filing the appropriate paperwork.

4 Months
• Finalise your flowers and settle on a final price. You may have to pay an additional instalment if your final quotation is dramatically different from the initial quotation.

• Make sure that your contract clearly states the due date for your final payment as well as any extra fees, such as delivery or tax.

• Discuss how to go about preserving your bouquet, if you are planning on doing so.

2 Weeks
• The majority of florists require the final down-payment one to two weeks before the wedding. Check your contract for details.

• Make sure that your florist has a floor plan of the venue and a clear idea of where all the floral arrangements are to be displayed.

The Day Before
• Arrange for the maid of honour, or another member of the bridal party, to take your bouquet home from the reception and have it preserved, if you would like to keep it as a memento.

The Big Day
• Greet your florist, as they deliver your flowers to your dressing room, and try to contain your ecstasy as you see your bouquet for the first time (this especially applies to bride’s who have a curling iron in their hair or a make-up artist with brush poised within the facial region).

• Make sure everyone’s corsages, hair flowers and bouttonnieres are fastened properly.

• Take a whiff of those beautiful buds and take a look in the mirror, holding your bouquet.

• Walk down the aisle and show off that gorgeous bouquet to all of your guests.

Know More About he Roles of the Mother and Father of the Bride

Your wedding day will be amongst the proudest and most special moments for you and your parents. There are many duties that can be done by the parents to incorporate them into your wedding day, making them feel special and needed. Involving your parents during the wedding process can not only can be a huge help for the couple, but, asking for their continual involvement- and, to an extent, their input- makes your parents feel included and makes them aware of your continuous gratitude.

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The father of the bride
Traditionally, the father-of- the-bride’s role is rich with symbolism. As the customary head of the household, it is the father who has consented to ‘give’ his bride away- passing all old responsibilities over her to the groom, as well as to open his family to his new son-in-law. This honorific role is epitomised in his giving his daughter way just before the marriage ceremony.

The father-of-the-bride’s involvement consists of:
Sending out the engagement announcement to the local newspaper. If the groom’s parent live far away, he should inquire as to whether they’d like an announcement placed in their local newspaper as well
Attending the wedding rehearsal
Attending any pre-wedding parties
Preparing a speech for the ceremony
Taking care of final payments of caterers, musicians etc.
Escorting the bride from the house to the ceremony
Arriving last with the bride
Walking with the bride up the aisle, walking on her right hand side
Giving the bride away
Standing until after the vows and then join the bride’s mother
Lighting the wedding ceremony candle with the mother and father of the groom (depending on your religious ceremony)
Signing the registry with the bride’s mother, and then escorting her down the aisle
Leaving for the reception after the bride and groom
Standing second in line at the wedding reception and greet the guests
Toasting the newlywed couple and making a short speech
Dancing with his daughter
Mingling with guests and introducing guests, when necessary
Keeping an eye on the food and drink supplies
Organising where the wedding presents should be sent
Writing any last minute cheques to vendors
Generally supervising the winding down of the party
Should aim to be the last to leave the party
The mother of the bride
Whilst the mother-of-the-bride’s role has less historical symbolism than her husband’s (ugh theres patriarchal society for you), she is just as important in practical and modern symbolic terms as the bride’s father. Aside from any ‘necessary’ role the mother-of-the-bride plays, one of her main emotional priorities is to share in this experience with her daughter, and help wherever possible to ensure her day goes as smoothly as possible.

The mother-of-the-bride’s duties include:

Helping the bride to compile a guest list, and potentially organising the RSVPs and dietary requirements of the guests
Helping to choose and coordinate the wedding invitations
Helping to choose the wedding gown and accessories, bridesmaids attire, flower girls and pageboys, wedding reception entertainment, florists, and transport (depending on how involved the bride would like her mother to be)
Keeping the parents of the groom informed of wedding planning progress
Consulting with the Mother of the Groom about the colour of her wedding outfit
Attending wedding rehearsals
Attending pre-wedding parties
Helping the bride with her dress and veil on the day
Walking her daughter down the aisle with her husband (depending on your religion)
Again, lighting the wedding ceremony candle with the mother and father of the groom (depending on your religious ceremony)
Carrying an emergency kit in case anything is needed by the bridal or grooms party on the day
Signing the wedding register and walking down the aisle with the father of the bride
Leaving for the reception after the bride and groom
Standing second in line at the reception and greeting the guests
Acting as a hostess at the reception, mingling with guests and introducing people
Helping the bride to change out of her wedding dress and storing it if the bride leaves straight from the reception for the honeymoon
Generally supervising the winding down of the party
Should aim to be the last to leave the party

Tips to Shopping for Mum’s Formal Wear

To the best of my knowledge, there are three types of mothers’ dress sense: 1. She has immaculate taste and always look timeless and elegant. 2. Her dress sense is ok, with a couple of ‘wardrobe malfunctions’ once in a while, but is generally (at least a little) open to some alterations. 3. There’s no getting around it. Her dress sense is plain God-awful and she insists that she knows she looks great. So how do we ensure that no matter what category your mother fits into in her day-to-day wear, she looks great on one of the most important days of your life? We’ve provided a series of steps to deal with even the most difficult of personalities, enable happy shopping, and guarantee that your mother looks great for all her photocalls.
Communicate
Irrespective of how your mother normally dresses, your best plan of action is to begin with an open talk with your mother about what she’d like to wear. Remember that on this day, her outfit isn’t a simple form of isolated self- expression, but she also needs to conform- to an extent- to what the rest of the wedding party is wearing; including the bride, groom, bridesmaids and groomsmen, fellow parents, flower girls and pageboys. Some level of visual cohesion is necessary if you want your group photos to look unified and tidy.

Ask in this conversation:

What, in a perfect world, would she like to wear?
Are there any particular colours she’d like to wear/ avoid?
What parts of her body would she like to show off/ conceal?
What are her absolute non- negotiables? (e.g. If she has a scar on her chest she wants to cover up, or she doesn’t want anything that emphasises her waist).
Are there any accessories she particularly wants to wear?
Find out where her basic boundaries are work with them. Attempting to sway her about these issues could simply spark an argument, and cast a cloud over her dress shopping. Make it abundantly clear that you will do everything in your power to find her the perfect dress that fits these requirements, and that she can absolutely trust you to help.

If you’re particularly fashion- savvy, you should, at this point, start giving your suggestions for what will look great on her. If you aren’t particularly adept at this sort of thing, wait until you get the opinion of a professional in the industry. Whilst working within the guidelines your mother’s set for you, your pieces of input should cover:

Her colouring and complexion
The colours being worn at your wedding (either these colours can be worn or neutral colours)
Her usual style
Her size and body shape
Possibly a brief discussion of fabrics (e.g. no chiffon, nothing clingy, etc)
If you have any, discuss here what your non-negotiables consist of. (e.g. if your mother wants to show a considerable amount of skin and your fiance’s family is extremely religious)
Establish who’s paying for the dress. There’s no etiquette stating that you should pay for your mother’s dress, but know your fiance will be guaranteed a lifetime of extra affection if he offers to pay for it (sneaky, sneaky).
Get a- Browsing
Have your mother show you some pictures of the style/ colours she’d like to wear. This will save time spent physically shopping. If she finds a dress she’s like to buy, make she orders it with plenty of time in advance. If you’re not sure about how it will look/ does look on her, consult a family member or friend who you can trust to be honest (preferably one who ‘gets’ fashion, or at the very least, has a keen eye for body proportions).

Retail Therapy (or More Like ‘Mission’)
Once you’ve found plenty of inspiration, hit the shops!

If you know your mother is an impatient shopper, consider spending some time browsing before she meets up with you. Photograph the dresses/ suits you find, along with their labels so you know exactly which stores they come from.

If neither of you know where to begin and what’ll look good, visit a store with potentially suitable dresses and have yourself fitted. Explain to the saleperson that you don’t know what’ll look good, and allow yourself to be guided. If you’re more comfortable being fitted by a woman, politely tell the salesperson so. They’ll be more than happy to oblige. The salesperson should be able to give objective advice on what fits will flatter, where to highlight, and what to avoid. If they don’t have anything suitable for your particular needs, they should be able to you in the right direction.

Tip: the more expensive and exclusive the shops you visit, the more personal attention and, often, the more useful advice you’ll receive. Many high-end shops don’t pay their salespeople according to their commission, so you’re more likely to receive good, honest advice.

When assessing how she looks in the outfits, the two watchwords here are honesty and kindness. It won’t do anyone any favours to try and ‘massage’ the truth. If a dress looks great, tell her! If it looks terrible, don’t simply say that (this is enough to put just about anyone into an awful shopping funk), but try to pinpoint where and why the dress isn’t working. Remember to critique the outfit, not the person- or their body- in it! If you’re at a complete loss for how to tell your mother that the outfit is horrendous, after covering why exactly you don’t like it, conclude with a simple ‘I think you could do better’, or ‘it doesn’t do you justice’. These phrases aren’t simply nice- sounding platitudes, but are a kind way of getting your essential point across. Remember that trying on clothing can be absolutely brutal, and that is it therefore imperative to try and build and maintain your mother’s confidence when trying on clothing. And who knows, maybe helping to put your mother into a good mood will encourage her to buy you lunch!

If you and your mother disagree on an outfit, get a salesperson to weigh in on the matter. Take photos of your mother in the outfit, show her, and reassess. If you still haven’t agreed, put the clothing on hold, and take a break. Shop around some more, take a stroll outside, or get some food and come back to it. Chances are, you’ll both have cleared your mind and be able to look at the outfit with fresh perspective.

Remember that shopping for the ‘one’ can often take weeks- so repeat this fact to your mother and don’t get discouraged! Shopping requires balls and tenacity, and often feels like more of a battle than a method of relaxation (especially when trying to find a specific outfit with a tight timeframe in mind), so keep this in mind and hang in there!

Get Personal
If all else fails, or you simply want to cut to the chase, make an appointment with a personal shopper. These professionals either work freelance or within a particular store. Call in advance to inquire about and organise this service. Like a regular salesperson, they should be able to assess your body’s needs, and find an outfit that is flattering, age appropriate and event appropriate. Unlike a salesperson, they make be able to match up some jewellery to the outfit, as well as shop for the correct underwear.

Get Intimate
Speaking of which, the foundation to taking an outfit to the next level is to wear the right underwear with it. Do not try buying underwear first, because your underwear in always dependent on your outfit, rather than the other way around! If she doesnt have the right underwear, take her to go grab some. The two rules of thumb here are quite obvious: Stick to underwear that will be concealed (no clear plastic bra straps for strappy tops or dresses, please), and it should be used to help fix what needs fixing! If she’s concerned about her stomach, introduce her to spanx, and if she wants her bust to look bigger, help her pick out a push- up bra. You know the deal.

Get Accessorised
Consider what accessories will suit your mother’s outfit. These can consist of:

A hat
A tiara
Earrings
Necklaces
Bracelets
Rings
Belts
A bag/ clutch
Tights
Socks
Insoles/ gel liners
Shoes
What is ultimately chosen depends, again, on her personal style, the formality of the wedding, and her sense of comfort.

Generally speaking, the busier her actual outfit is, the less accessories she needs.

Jewellery: The key here is to strike the right balance in choosing how much to wear. You should be wearing between 1- 3 pieces at once (including a tiara, if she’s wearing one). Jewellery should be there to compliment the outfit, not compete for attention. You should have one attention grabbing piece (e.g. the tiara or ornate earrings) and keep the rest fairly simple.

Bags/ shoes/ hats: It’s been quite popular for decades to wear whatever shoe colour you like with your dress, as long as it matches you handbag and hat (if you’re wearing one). Whilst some see this approach as a little outdated, if done right (i.e. with beautiful items), it can look classic and elegant. Alternatively, you could wear different colours of each item as long as they compliment eachother (e.g. sticking to jewel colours by wearing an emerald green dress with burnt- orange shoes and a deep- yellow clutch). Or, you can choose to dress tonally, where you wear different toned items of the same colour (e.g. a periwinkle blue dress with navy shoes and a pale blue cardigan). All this really comes down to is personal preference.

Helping to choose your mother’s wedding outfit can be a daunting task. But chances are, you mother will feel the pressure more than you- meaning that she’ll be relying on you for calm, clarity, and great style advice. So try to keep calm and approach this project with a sense of openness, fun and flexibility! At the end of the day, the outfit is just an outfit, but the process of choosing it is an opportunity to create some priceless memories. True style takes infinite forms- and applies not only to clothing, but attitude!

Know More About Mother of the Bride Glossary

Bridal shower: a small pre-wedding party where the bride’s favourite women gather in a home or restaurant to congratulate the bride on her nuptials. In the past, the Maid of Honour was responsible for arranging the bridal shower and hen’s night. However, these days, many Mothers of the Bride arrange the bridal shower or co-host it with the Maid of Honour.

Candle lighting: Some religions include a candle lighting ritual during the ceremony, as the Mother of the Bride takes her seat. She may even be required to light a candle, along with the Father of the Bride.

Fascinator: A decorative head covering, often worn by Mothers of the Bride. A fascinator usually clips in to the hair and may feature feathers, artificial flowers, ribbons and/or jewels.

FILs: Abbreviation of “Future In-Laws”. The parents of the groom are usually the first to initiate a dinner or meeting between the FILs after the engagement party. However, this arrangement is sometimes the responsibility of the Mother of the Bride.

FMIL: Abbreviation of “Future Mother-in-Law”. It is important for the Mother of the Bride to make an effort to connect with her daughter’s future husband, and vice versa. Otherwise, he may have FML moments every time he thinks about his FMIL.

First dance: The first dance number is between the newly-wed couple. After a while, the bride’s father usually cuts in and dances with his daughter while the groom dances with his new mother-in-law (the Mother of the Bride). After this, there may be a sequence of dances between the in-laws and bridal party members.

Hat: Mothers of the Bride have been wearing hats to wedding ceremonies since the beginning of time, just about. They are more commonly worn during outdoor ceremonies but the Mother of the Bride may wear a hat upon her arrival at the venue and then take it off once inside. Mother of the Bride hats are usually rather large and the hatband may be decorated with various embellishments. If decorating a hatband, tradition stipulates that women should always decorate the right hand side of the hat.

MOB: Also referred to as “MOTB”. Abbreviation of Mother of the Bride.

Morning-after breakfast: Some couples choose to have a breakfast or brunch the morning after the wedding for the bridal party and out of town guests, before heading off on their honeymoon. This gives the couple a chance to reflect on the wedding and also spend some time with relatives who they may not have had a chance to talk to at the reception. The Mother of the Bride is often responsible for arranging the morning-after breakfast.

Personal shopper: A person who can be hired to go shopping with the Mother of the Bride to choose her outfit for the wedding. Personal shoppers are fashion-savvy and can usually match suitable outfits to a woman’s body type as well as help her to choose styles which are appropriate for formal wear and will blend with the bridal party’s outfits.

Pin-on corsage: A small arrangement of flowers, worn by the Mothers of the Bride and Groom and other important female relatives. The flowers are attached to a small pin which is fastened to the front of the woman’s outfit, in the same fashion as brooch would be. Some corsages can be pinned onto a clutch or purse rather than her dress.

Statement hair flower: A flower which is pinned in to the hair, in place of a hat or fascinator. A statement hair flower may be artificial or real. It should match the Mother of the Bride’s outfit or the colours of the bridal party’s outfits. A statement hair flower pin could be ordered along with the wedding flowers, if preferred.

Suit dress: A two-piece outfit consisting of a dress and jacket or a three-piece outfit consisting of a skirt, top and jacket. Both suit dress options are commonly worn by Mothers of the Bride at both the wedding ceremony and reception.

Wrist corsage: A wrist corsage is similar to a pin-on corsage. However, rather than pinning the floral arrangement onto the clothes, it is wrapped around the wrist with a ribbon or attached to a bracelet.

More Information About Mother of the Bride Checklist

Some brides love having their Mums alongside them during the wedding process. Others would rather swallow rusty nails before letting their mothers near their invitations. Every bride’s needs are different, so this checklist can be applied in an infinite number of ways. Depending on how involved you’d like your mum to be, you can, of course, add to or subtract from this list – communication is the key to successfully planning your wedding and keeping Mum happy.

9 Months
• Before you even start tackling any of the tasks on your list, sit down with Mum and have a heart-to-heart about what role you expect her to play in planning your wedding. Now is the time to set down clear boundaries. Otherwise, you might have her breathing down your neck for the next nine months, making decisions that you don’t want made, on your behalf. Let her know how involved you’d like her to be and let her know how much you love and appreciate her because, well, that’s always a nice thing to do.

6 Months
• If you’ve asked Mum to help you out with the invitations, this is the time to narrow down the guest list and send out save-the-dates. To take some of the pressure off your plate, you could ask your Mum to sift through invitation designs and give you a handful to choose from.

4 Months
• If Mum is helping with the bridal party outfits, ask her to lend a hand to the bridesmaids and go on a few shopping trips with them (leaving the final decision up to you, of course).
• Once you’ve settled on the bridesmaids’ dresses, Mum can go shopping for her own outfit. Once she’s found the perfect one, she should let the Mother of the Groom know, so that she can go and buy an outfit that won’t clash.

2 Months
• If Mum’s arranging your bridal shower, ask her if she needs any help arranging things. If she does, ask your Maid of Honour to give her a hand (or help her yourself if you’re not too overwhelmed by it).

1 Month
• Your RSVPs should have all been sent in by now. Check in with your Mum and see if she’s finished doing the seating arrangement. Take a peek at it and make sure it’s all A-OK. Just a glance could prevent World War III – mum might not realise the awkward history that your co-worker has with the best man’s brother.

• Enjoy your bridal shower and take Mum out for coffee, or lunch, to say thank you for all the effort she made to arrange the get-together.

The Day Before
• Enjoy the rehearsal dinner with your Mum, and everyone else who has played such a vital role in putting this monumental event together. Take the opportunity to share with everyone how helpful she’s been, and how much you appreciate every ounce (or rather, calorie) of energy she’s put in.

The Big Day
• Help mum pin her corsage on. Tell her she’s beautiful.

• Enjoy your reception and giggle with your husband about how your mum is buzzing about, loving every second of playing Hostess.

Tips And Idea For Wedding Planning

You have a ring on your finger, excitement is in the air and the count down is on ‘til your party of a lifetime. Wow! So much wedding planning to be done, where do you start?

Firstly BREATHE. Now allow yourself to enjoy being engaged with your fiancé. Wedding planning does not have to be stressful, if you take it step by step and keep a level head you will get through it beautifully and avoid bridezilla-dom.

Now down to business – where to go from here…

Spread the news! Buy the engagement ring if your finger isn’t already ‘blinged-up’. Placing a notice in the newspaper is a classic way of announcing your engagement and provides a valuable keepsake for your wedding album, but most couples will spread the word quickly via Facebook, twitter and instagram. Just be sure those closest to you know before they see it on their newsfeed!

Buy a dedicated wedding diary/planner like Modern Wedding Planner so you can keep track of all your upcoming appointments, quotes, phone numbers and ideas. Sign up to our free wedding planning tools for a comprehensive interactive checklist, budget manager, guest list manager, seating planner and supplier shortlist so you can make a record of all your favourite suppliers.

Even though everyone has been informed there’s nothing that will bring it home quite like a party to celebrate your engagement. Click here for engagement party ideas and procedures.

Before you decide on budget, discuss the style of wedding with your fiancé… yes he should have a say! It’s a good idea to start the engagement off on the right foot, so arm yourself with an open mind and perhaps a bottle of bubbly. It is one of the most important days of your life and also one of the most expensive. The only way to survive is to work out a detailed wedding budget. Read through our tips for setting a budget. Discuss who is paying for what and what you or your families can afford before booking anything.
Settling on a date is not easy either – there are many considerations to take into account, and remember that pleasing everyone is near impossible!

Grab a pen, some paper and your man and get brainstorming. Flip through Modern Wedding magazine and browse through real wedding features to get ideas. Discuss the style of wedding you want, talk about the guest list and time of year as these will in turn determine budget and other wedding planning considerations. Decide on what is important to you both and wedding planning will be a much smoother ride.

Pinterest is an absolute wedding planning MUST for brides. If you don’t already have a Pinterest account then now is the time to create one. Pinterest is the best way to collect all your visual inspiration and ideas.